August 22, 2019

How to talk to your teenager?

“Talking to your teenager, should be in the same manner as if you are talking to your husband”- said one psychologist. This comparison is so powerful. It explains clearly how I should communicate with my teen daughter. Sometimes I do not know how to communicate with her. Especially, when I have been facing so many issues with her resistant or even aggressive behavior due to her anxiety or depression. I am a mother, and I got confused when I realized that my methods of raising up my child stopped working. Why? Where is my small, innocent, and obedient child? I […]
August 15, 2019

Four things that make me happy!

I have four children and I feel blessed no matter what obstacles I have had in my personal life. Was I always a happy mother? No, I was not. What helped me to become a happy mother? First of all, I realized how important it was to be myself, but not a person everyone wants to see, or expects of you to be. Once I looked at myself mindfully, I felt sorry for myself because that was not me. My ex-husband used to always criticize me. Over the years my self-esteem became much lower than it used to be. By nature, I […]
November 15, 2017

Update your child’s programming!

It is the 21st century and the way we were raised has become outdated. Fifty years ago, our lives were different, leadership was different, system, and society were different. Why do we want to raise our children according to the old systems, old methods, and old values? According to Isaak Pintosevich when we buy a computer, we do not want to program our computer with old programs, instead we want our new computer to have updated programs. It goes without saying that the computer is the same but the software programs are up to date. Likewise, raising our children today […]
November 9, 2017

What Can I Do In One Minute?

Have you ever thought what can you do in one minute? Recently, I thought about this and realized how much power one minute has! In Japan, people spend one minute each day to do some work for self-improvement. It is called the practice of Kaizen (‘kai’ means change and ‘zen’ means wisdom. They also use one-minute techniques to overcome laziness. For example, it is boring to learn a foreign language. But if you learn a foreign language every day spending only one minute of your time, it may be fun and you will get satisfaction from your progress. One minute can […]
October 28, 2017

Does your child tell you “Mom, you are the best”?

Face painting can be fun activity for kids. Do it with kids, try to paint their face, and let your child paint your face, it may turn out great! Paints are not expensive, but you may have so much fun and spend your time with your kids qualitatively. Praise your child for the great work he did. Many parents in America take part in school events and try to be engaged with the school. This is what matters to kids. This is what matters to schools. This is what should matter to parents. When your child tells you: “Mom, you […]
October 22, 2017

Help your child look prettier and be healthier! 

Good-enough mothers instill healthy lifetime habits in their children and the earlier they do it the better. A child who consumes sugary drinks or candies is more likely to suffer from dental cavities. Assumption is bad. There were three main reasons why I assumed that my two kids may not have cavities. First of all, we go two times a year to the dentist. Then, my children brush their teeth two times a day and finally, they consume a limited amount of sugary drinks and candies. However, the X-ray results were opposite. Many parents, just like myself, assume that their kids […]
October 21, 2017

Activity with kids: Rubik’s Cube

Help children develop their brain and fine motor skills. According to scientists, when children reach four years old, their brains have been already developed up to 86 percent. Rubik’s Cube is an activity that develops fine motor skills and brain. Therefore, toddlers and kids of any ages can play and solve it. Rubik’s Cube is an amazing cube to practice colors with toddlers. Put Rubik’s Cube in visible places, and kids will use it every day . At first, my kids did not know how to solve them. Now, I come home and see different colors. If you want kids to […]
October 21, 2017

American culture: What is Halloween?

Halloween is an American holiday. It is celebrated each year on the night of October 31. It is usually celebrated amongst family, friends and sometimes, community. Historically, Halloween came from Ireland and originated with the ancient Celtic festival of Samhain,  celebrating the end of the harvest season and the beginning of winter. Halloween is observed by millions of people in many countries. This is fun time for kids, families, and community. Children may put on fancy costumes and go door-to-door for trick or treats. Adults may watch horror movies. Some people see Halloween as a harmless holiday. Others think the celebration […]
October 18, 2017

Give 30 seconds of complete focus!

The moments of departure and the moments of meeting have a profound effect on our kids’ wellbeing and success! How many of us leave our children at our babysitters or daycare and say goodbye to them, and yet we are on our phones? How many of us take our kids back from daycare while still on our phones? Let’s give at least 30 seconds of complete focus to our children, put away our phones or do not answer the calls when saying goodbye or hello to our kids! Let’s be fully with them for at least 30 seconds during departure and our contact! These […]
July 29, 2017

20-minutes approach in parenting

I started using the rule of 20-minutes in parenting. Children are very energetic and curious, but their interest may be lost within the next 20 minutes. After the breakfast, I started giving my kids three or four options what they want to do. That way, it is not you, as a parent, telling them what to do, but it is them, who decide what to do. I want them to learn how to make decision, and at the same time to stay focused and learn more from any activity. If there is a need, I provide instructions for an activity […]
August 30, 2016

My soul cries…

My soul cries, can you dispute it? How could you call my sisters stupid, All young, fourteen from  Kyrgyzstan, Natalia! Seventeen, in total, women died by fire! Who are the Kyrgyz? Supportive, kind At times of tragedies their hopes’re up These girls might know a little Russian The age made them believe in Russians You were with them, one word, Natalia, Could have prevented them from deaths.   O  
August 27, 2016

Educate Yourself and Be Aware of Potential Risks

The recent researches indicate “41% percent of first marriages, 60% of second and 73% of third marriages end in divorce in America”. This is a very frightening fact because it more likely affects children by neglect, physical child abuse, and aggression that simultaneously affect the society in general. The result of the literature review suggests that stepfamilies are viewed more negatively and mainly because of the issues related to physical child abuse. Given that one of the important characteristics of social work is “the focus on individual well-being in a social context and the well-being of society” (NASW, 1994), this […]
August 23, 2016

Advocate for Your Own Child!

Any mother can be a social worker. It is a challenging and rewarding job. A good social worker is an agent of social changes and an advocate for any vulnerable people including children whose voices are usually little heard. My MSW degree helped me advocate for my own daughter. She wanted to go to a school that was different from what she supposed to be assigned initially. Everything is possible if you approach the situation in a right way. No one knows your situation, unless you speak up. In the US, your address is very important, because children must go […]
August 12, 2016

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, TABRIS!

Yesterday we were so excited about the birthday of our youngest son to celebrate his first birthday within  our family. It is exciting for several reasons. First of all, we live as a family all together for the first time ever and it is in the USA. Then, we have never celebrated birthdays of our children at that age for some reasons. Also, after all challenges in life, especially the ones happened this year, we wanted to remember some good events in 2016!  As a result, we celebrated not only his birthday on August 11, 2016 but also kind of observed our  old […]