Any mother can be a social worker. It is a challenging and rewarding job. A good social worker is an agent of social changes and an advocate for any vulnerable people including children whose voices are usually little heard. My MSW degree helped me advocate for my own daughter. She wanted to go to a school that was different from what she supposed to be assigned initially.
Everything is possible if you approach the situation in a right way. No one knows your situation, unless you speak up.
In the US, your address is very important, because children must go to schools that are located within that area where you live. Legally, you cannot give your children to a different school unless otherwise explained.
I met two times respective registrar assistants and got the same reply “Sorry, we cannot enroll your daughter to the school you want.”
However, seeing my daughter everyday unhappy, I believe, because of her transitional development period, I was firm not to give up. I decided to write an official request and provide the reasons of my request. I made an appointment. We had a good meeting. I was able to leave the school administration all the documents.
Few days later, I got a voice message from the school that my request to transfer my daughter to a new school was approved.
Parents should give so much attention to their 12-15 years old children, guide them, explain many things about their physical developmental changes, and be friend with them. However, in my case, I felt there is a lack of communication between me and my daughter, being myself a full-time student and having other 3 small children
At this age, my little teenager should feel that she is loved and supported.
Culturally Kyrgyz people, like many Asians, do not express openly too much their love towards children, especially if there are many children in a family. Kyrgyz people express their love differently, they do everything for the sake of their children. Kyrgyz parents raise them, pay for their higher education, take all expenses of their children’s wedding parties that may consist from 250 to 500 relatives and friends. Kyrgyz parents buy or build a house for their children to make their life easier. In addition, Kyrgyz parents look after their grandchildren to show how much they love and support their own children.
By advocating for my daughter, I wanted her to know that she is heard, loved and listened to.
As a mother, I want to thank the school administration for their assistance in helping my child grow emotionally, socially, and psychologically in a supportive environment without any additional stress. Thank you for your great and challenging work to support not only children but also parents in raising healthy children!