I have four children and I feel blessed no matter what obstacles I have had in my personal life. Was I always a happy mother? No, I was not.
What helped me to become a happy mother? First of all, I realized how important it was to be myself, but not a person everyone wants to see, or expects of you to be. Once I looked at myself mindfully, I felt sorry for myself because that was not me. My ex-husband used to always criticize me. Over the years my self-esteem became much lower than it used to be. By nature, I am a doer, an organizer, and an initiator. I told to myself “Stop!” I need to live my life. Since that day my life has changed. I changed my life. I decided to love myself doing such things, as taking care of myself, eating healthy food, planting vegetables at home, exercising, experimenting with different types of sports just to find the one that fits me best. Currently, I go to fitness room 2-3 times a week. Sometimes, I exercise at home.
Second, I said goodbye to my past and forgave everyone who I was angry and disappointed with. For better effect, I could have written everything on paper and trash it. However, I have not done that because just telling to myself: ” I forgive!” was enough to start my new life. I forgave and forgot my past, which is so important for happiness, because now I have internal peace.
Third, even though I have several diplomas including two master’s degrees acquired in the United States, I still continue educating myself in parenting. I do believe that the most difficult job is to be a good mother and raise responsible healthy children. Educating myself keeps me up to date to be an interesting person to talk with.
Last but not least, I started doing things that bring me joy. For example, I manage my blog and a Facebook page “Good enough mother” to share ideas about parenting that I find effective. I also have a Youtube channel to share my own successes and failures in parenting.
All in all, these four main things help me to be a happy mother, not perfect, but good enough to be happy and make my children feel happy.!